Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships

I’m going to be blunt. I’ve spent my entire life having awful to bad sex, with occasional diversions into decent sex. There are a lot of reasons for that, but the most basic is that I never asked any of my partners to do the things I wanted to do. The thesis of this book is that if you can get over the weird American-Protestant shame hang-ups around sex to think clearly about what you want and then ask other people to help, you can have good sex.

My goodness, what an idea. Why didn’t I think of that

Harris is a professional sex coach and intimacy educator, so her idea of good sex is pretty adventurous, with parties, multiple partners, and a lot of toys. But even if you’re much much more vanilla, or only gradually looking to spice things up, this is a clear and easy book for working through your issues and getting to better sex.